When Sex May Feel Different - and How to Fix It

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Introduction

There are two sides to every coin — and to most things in life: the good and the bad. Often, which side we experience depends on one thing — our awareness or ignorance of the issues at hand. Sex, especially in marriage, is no different. For some couples, it’s a source of intimacy, and connection. For others, it’s a struggle — and in the worst cases, a silent wedge that breaks homes. This post isn’t about bedroom techniques. It’s about the sensitive, often unspoken factors that can make sex in marriage fulfilling — or frustrating.


The Unspoken Hindrance to Enjoying Sex

One major, but rarely discussed, reason some women struggle to enjoy sex is the strength of their pelvic floor muscles. While that sinks in, here’s what you need to know: The pelvic floor acts like a supportive bed for delicate organs such as the bladder, uterus, and rectum. Around it are muscles that keep these organs in place and functioning well. However, during pregnancy — or after vaginal childbirth — these muscles can weaken. This can lead to:

  • Reduced sensation, arousal, and orgasmic response

  • Urinary or faecal leakage (incontinence)

  • Dropping of pelvic organs (organ prolapse)

Sometimes the signs appear during pregnancy due to the baby’s pressure on the bladder. Other times, women only notice when they find stains on their clothes — or when symptoms persist after childbirth. In more sensitive situations, a partner may mention changes during intimacy, such as looseness or less physical response. Chronic cough, sneeze or laugh can also affect the pelvic floor. These are real issues — but not ones that medication can fix. The good news? Physiotherapy can. With the right pelvic floor rehabilitation, strength, control, and intimacy can be restored. If this sounds familiar — for you or someone you know — reach out to us at +2348126973878. Help is closer than you think. 


How Physiotherapy Helps

Physiotherapy helps by strengthening, coordinating, and restoring control of the pelvic floor through pelvic floor rehabilitation. This often revolves around performing Kegel exercises — but not as a one-off or weekly activity. It’s something every woman should do consistently, ideally throughout her life. In fact, girls should start learning this from puberty to build lifelong pelvic floor health.

How to Perform a Kegel Exercise:

  • Choose your position – Sit, stand, or lie down — whatever is most comfortable.

  • Activate the right muscles – Imagine you’re trying to stop yourself from urinating midstream. That gentle squeeze is your pelvic floor at work.

  • Breathe normally – Don’t hold your breath, and never perform Kegels while actually urinating — this can cause bladder issues.

  • Hold – Keep the squeeze for a slow count of 10 while keeping your abdomen, thighs, and buttocks relaxed.

  • Release and rest – Relax completely for about 5 seconds.

  • Repeat – Do 5 repetitions at a time, morning, afternoon, and evening. That’s it — anytime, anywhere.

Stay consistent. This is a long-term, preventive exercise — not a quick fix. With daily practice, you’ll notice better muscle tone, bladder control, and sexual satisfaction.

💡 Pro tip: You don’t have to wait until a problem develops. As a woman, make Kegels part of your daily self-care routine. No one also needs to know if you are performing the exercise. 


Final Thoughts

Today’s topic, though sensitive, is something every woman, couple, or soon-to-be couple should know. Understanding the role of pelvic floor health can prevent many intimacy struggles — and even protect relationships from unnecessary strain. If you know someone who could benefit from this knowledge, don’t keep it to yourself. Share it, and encourage them to reach out to us at +2348126973878. Sometimes, the right information at the right time can change everything.


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